Curiosity is the foundation of love.
We fall in love because of the questions we ask ourselves, as well as the silent ones we keep inside: Who are you? What are you carrying within yourself? Can I follow you there?
At first, asking seems natural. We’re curious about everything. favorite hues, recollections of their early years, and heartfelt melodies. Line by line, layer by layer, we absorb one another like poetry.
However, something changes over time.
There are fewer questions. We become accustomed to our routine. We start to believe that we already fully understand our spouse. Curiosity becomes silent as life becomes louder.
And occasionally, the connection starts to wane.
The reality is that people are not complete works of literature. These are narratives that are alive.
Our loved ones are still developing.
Unfolding still.
“Who are you today?” is still a gentle question that has to be asked.
An inquiry has a really affectionate quality. Not for the solution it offers, but rather for the message it conveys: “I’m interested in your world.” I’d want to hear your opinion. You are your own cosmos, not a continuation of me, in my opinion.
We cease to learn when we stop inquiring.
When we stop learning, we run the risk of falling in love with a memory rather than the person in front of us.
Doubt does not equate to more questions.
Devotion is what they mean.
They are the reason we remain connected despite the changes in our lives.
They are our way of expressing, “I’m still here, choosing to find you,” without actually saying it.
Questions are invites rather than interrogations in healthy partnerships.
invitations to enter each other’s tender, hallowed hearts. They make space for truthfulness. Softness is allowed. Truth has room.
It’s not insignificant to inquire about their current desires, needs, and feelings. These are the strands, carefully woven through time, that sustain love.
Therefore, asking more questions is beneficial for a relationship.
Not only at the start.
Not just when something is wrong.
But always.
You care, so ask.
You’re still in love with the way their intellect functions, so ask.
You’re still curious after all this time, so ask.
Ask because love is a dialogue, not a conclusion.
And the most exquisite partnerships?
They chat all the time.
